What I Learned About Myself When Everything Fell Apart: Amie M - The moment that everything changed

In this powerful and emotionally raw episode of The Moment When Everything Changed, our host shares the intimate truth of what it really looks like to heal from betrayal, rebuild trust, and move forward after everything falls apart. This is not just a story of heartbreak — it’s a story of rediscovery, deep emotional work, and finding strength in the most unexpected of places.

After an incident that shook the foundation of her relationship, she found herself spiraling — emotionally exhausted, overwhelmed by mixed emotions, and uncertain about her future. The early days of her pregnancy were marked by emotional chaos: living apart from her partner, struggling with deep resentment, and feeling trapped in a cycle of anger, confusion, and hopelessness.

It wasn’t until she stumbled across a YouTube video on betrayal trauma that she began to understand the symptoms she was experiencing — not just mentally, but physically. Intrusive thoughts, emotional flashbacks, and somatic memories made it feel like she was reliving the trauma daily. That realization became a turning point. She referred herself for therapy and advocated to receive EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) — a powerful trauma therapy known to help reprocess emotional pain stuck in the body.

Despite the emotional risks during pregnancy, and with the guidance of healthcare professionals, she completed eight intensive EMDR sessions — finishing the final one just five days before giving birth.

She reflects on the power of EMDR, hypnotherapy, and tapping (EFT) to access healing beyond traditional talk therapy — helping her reframe what happened, understand her emotional reactions, and finally begin to release the guilt, confusion, and shame.

This episode also dives into the emotional toll of unsupportive friendships, the pain of losing a bridesmaid, and the isolation that comes when others can’t accept your choices. But despite the judgment and emotional strain, she held her ground, embraced the messiness of healing, and found purpose in her journey — including the unexpected joy of becoming a mother.

She now anchors herself in the powerful reminder: “I did my best.” And in doing so, she found clarity, compassion, and the courage to keep going.

What You'll Hear in This Episode:

• What betrayal trauma really feels like — emotionally and physically
• The impact of pregnancy on emotional clarity and subconscious healing
• Living through relationship uncertainty while expecting a child
• How EMDR therapy works and why it’s so powerful for trauma
• Tapping (EFT), hypnotherapy, and somatic healing techniques
• The limitations of talk therapy and why deeper healing often requires body-based approaches
• Losing friendships and setting boundaries when others don’t support your